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TODAY I'M SAYING
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
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SWEET FOR THE WEEK
Seasons change. Time changes. People change. With all this change surrounding you, what makes you think you shouldn't? Change something that will improve something in your life. |
Filtered Pain
by Charlene Brunson
Today is such a beautiful day. I decided to do some
cleaning since I was off. I went through
my old totes and I found my old diaries dating back thirteen years. It was a
very interesting day. I enjoyed daily writing in my diaries. Daily thoughts,
relationship mishaps. I mean I had everything written. I was laughing so hard
at some of the things I wrote. I actually found one from 1997. How unbelievable
what I was writing so far back. The
interesting part of this is that I documented so much of my feelings and how it
has affected me today. I realize now why
I have filtered so much of my pain. I need to self- help myself.
Many people have wondered why I do not celebrate my
birthday. I never answered because honestly I had forgotten though I know there
is a logical reason. I started reflecting on things I stopped doing through
the years. I have not celebrated my birthday since high school. Why is that? I
had to take the journey back in my memory.
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Your Lack of Child Support has made me BETTER not Bitter - that's something to dance about
Today, I had a meeting that involved revisiting some people
and remembering unpleasant circumstances of my past. Let me make it plain. I had to attend a child support conference because my daughter's Y chromosome hasn't contributed financially for over a year. I was not happy about
having to attend, but I knew it was beneficial and imperative. In fact, I didn't want to attend, because I can care less if he contributes or not. She has been and will continue to be fine without his help. During the
meeting, I couldn’t help but to be thrown back into time. I was able to
remember like it happened yesterday, but much time had passed, and many things
had changed. CONTINUE READING
Are you working yourself to DEATH
Slow down! We may have to work to live but we don't have to live to work. Life passes by faster than we can imagine. Overworking oneself increases stress and decreases one's lifespan. The truth is you can't afford to over work yourself. Jobs and careers can consume our time and lifestyle, but if not careful, it will consume your life...literally. CONTINUE READING
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What is your SEXage
OK. OK. We all can admit that we are not as sexually active or maybe even adventurous between the sheets as our younger, twenty something self, but how less active have we actually become? Take the SEXage test and see how old your sex life is.
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I Got a New Attitude
by Charlene Brunson
It is currently 4am in the morning. I am drinking some Orange Blossom Tazo tea and jamming to Ledisi. This morning I woke up with a new attitude. I have a hair appointment at 9:30a. I was getting my haircut. Do you ever notice that when you make an outward change to your appearance how much better and different you feel on the inside? That is how I felt this morning. As I sat in the stylist chair and she began to cut my hair. I saw my old self disappearing. I had been so depressed lately. I did not feel attractive. But when the hair began to fall, I felt so much lighter as if a burden was being lifted. As the hair fell I said good bye depression, negativity, bitterness, sadness, and non-motivator. The entire time this transformation was taking place I never once looked in the mirror. I did not want to see the final results. [Continue]
Dear Honey: My Best Friend's Ex is the one for Me
Dear Honey,
For the past seven months I have been dating and romantically involved with my best friend's ex. This is killing me because of all the obvious reasons. We have been friends since 5th grade and have never ever dated each other's boyfriend. The thing is, she and her ex split a year ago and they split on good terms. He and I work in the same building and started having lunch together shortly after the breakup. From there we got close, started seeing each other after hours, and eventually started dating. I am scared to tell mY best friend, but I hate keeping it from her. I don't want to ruin our relationship and I don't want to stop seeing him either. What should I do? [CONTINUE @DEAR HONEY] |
DEAR HONEY: I'm ready for the ring, but his wife got it first
Dear Honey,
I’ve been in a relationship with the same man for 18 months. He spends five out of seven nights with me, and we are talking marriage and children. He has helped me make some investments towards a business that I am starting and he helps me toward other financial obligations. The story turned when I found out at seven months into our relationship that he has been separated from his wife and two kids, for two years. I found out, accidently, and when I confronted him, he admitted it right away. He said... [Continue @DEAR HONEY] |
I Can't do to the Gym Everyday
I live with a very health conscience man, who hits the gym at least five days a week or more, and I think that is great...for him. I, on the other hand, find it extremely difficult to commit to that many days and hours. Maybe if the gym was walking distance, but since we have to drive there, I don't have time to be there every single day. I am pleased with my two day a week attendance and the kick butt classes I attend. Admittedly, I am there for three hours due to the classes that my daughter participates in, but regardless, I get three hours in, two days a week. I care for my health, my cardio, my bones, and all that good stuff, but I don't believe the gym is the only way to maintain an exercised induced, healthy workout type of life. [Continue]
This is the Real Stair Master
THANK YOU FOR LEAVING ME WHILE I WAS PREGNANT
Two and a half weeks ago, I celebrated my daughter's eleventh birthday and being reflective on one of the greatest, yet hardest times of my young adult life. I found myself a single parent, at a time when I wasn't even expecting to be a parent. I was in my junior year of college (Temple U baby!), with my boyfriend of four years, when we found out we were about to become parents. I was not happy or ecstatic, instead I instantly began to think about college and my scheduled graduation date. I got an attitude at the thought of...
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Two Part Series: Rejecting Rejection & Displacing Disappointment
Rejecting Rejection
I’ve always been a strong character with a lot of personality, but when I experienced genuine hurt and emotional pain caused by disappointment and rejection, I felt like the wind was knocked out of me. It did something to my confidence and it played around carelessly with my zealous behavior. I felt uneasy and at times, unsure of myself. It is said, “There’s a thin line between love and hate”, but there is a thin line between anything good or bad. One moment you can be up moving and making progress and the next moment you can be downright low to the ground. The problem is not always recovering from the slump, but regaining and recapturing the person you once were. [Continue]
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Displacing Disappointment
Let's see. I have been disappointed in the workplace. I have been disappointed in familial relationships. I have been disappointed in church. I was disappointed when my daughter's father skipped out on me at seven months pregnant. I was disappointed when my big great breakthrough, fell through. I was disappointed when I thought I could trust a friend, only to be hurt by their lies. I have disappointed myself. I have disappointed others. Disappointment is ever present, always peeking its stupid head out, when I attempt something new, or try to build new relationships. [Continue]
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Real Talk with Carica Williams and The Sexy Single Mommy, Ty Knighten
Carica Williams, Editor and blogger at ProperHoney, was interviewed by The Sexy Single Mommy, Ty Knighten. Ty keeps it real with no chaser, as she asks questions from, "Do you think people look down on Single mothers?" to more personal questions like, "How did you become a single mom?" You are sure to be strengthened, empowered, and entertained in true ProperHoney fashion. Read the interview here!
Go, Claim your Happiness!
Life is not meant for you to live unhappily. It is not purposed for you to struggle. It is not a goal to be miserable or live in uncomfortable circumstances, but people do, everyday. Some people accept it as their life’s fate, some reject it without the knowledge to escape, but as long as there is breath in the body, will in the spirit, and courage in the heart, no one should settle for less.
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Couples that Eat well together, Make love well together
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Grocery List: Libido Increasing Foods for Me and Him |
Time Out. I am Suffocating.
by Charlene Brunson
Picture yourself sitting in a small room with padded walls with another person. This is how I feel right now. I often asked myself is there such a thing as too much togetherness. I am not sure. But I have really come to grips with life that there is such a thing. Do not get me wrong I love my significant other. Breathe. He can really consume all my energy at times.
At times I look around and say how did I survive this five year relationship? I know how I did it, but why? I have learned to manage my anger well when he gets in my space. One day I am in the kitchen cooking. I have a nice size kitchen but we cannot be in the same place when one person has no clue as to what he is doing. He is not a cook but he tries. He will come in my space taking charge of what I have mastered. Oh no, this is definitely not going to work. [Continue]
At times I look around and say how did I survive this five year relationship? I know how I did it, but why? I have learned to manage my anger well when he gets in my space. One day I am in the kitchen cooking. I have a nice size kitchen but we cannot be in the same place when one person has no clue as to what he is doing. He is not a cook but he tries. He will come in my space taking charge of what I have mastered. Oh no, this is definitely not going to work. [Continue]
BEAUTIFULLY LIV: STOP STRESSING
You stress, you hurt your heart. You stress, you eat, you gain weight, you reduce your lifespan. It's not worth it! When stress invades your body, you tend to crave more sugary and salty foods. Bad day, bigger scoop of ice cream. Heartbroken, pass the chocolate. The logic behind this: when the body stresses, it releases cortisol, a hormone that increases insulin levels, making the body want fatty and sugary foods. How much is a long life worth? [Continue]
Don't Give up on Love, 'cause Love won't give up on You
Love after love. It is certain that love can hurt, but only when it is not received or given properly. In this case, it usually results in a dissolution. Love or a break up can hurt so insanely bad, that it can make you feel like your world has ended and there is no other chance for love or relationships in the future: near or far. The most difficult thing about ending a love is probably trusting and embracing yourself for a new one. After all the tears, denial, and false hopes for a reconciliation, the time will come for you to love again. Do not miss out on an opportunity for love, because you are stuck in a funk over a past love. Sometimes, true love can be found in someone you least expect it at a time when you are not even looking. If you feel like giving up on love, or think that it may not happen for you, follow these six steps to love again after being hurt for a better and happier you.
I'm Happily Gray
I'm happily gray! You read that right. I've been this way since I was 25 years old. I met my first coily strand when I was standing innocently in the mirror, prepping my head for a pull back. There it was, shiny gray, almost white, and more course than the surrounding black strands. It was beautiful. Right? [CONTINUE READING AT THE BLOG]
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Can't it be about me for once!
...After I told her how I felt and the agony I was experiencing, she continued to proceed with her dumping. Hell-o! I'm over here throwing up green unknown liquid (because that's all you have left after vomiting for two consecutive days) and you still wish to continue to dump on me. Something is wrong with this picture. Does it always have to be about you? [CONTINUE READING]
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Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. helped me become the first Black to graduate from my Middle School
I am the daughter of a single mom. My mom worked one, two, three, and dare I say sometimes four different jobs to put me through private Catholic school from 1st -12th grade. She worked hard and attended school herself, attaining her Master's Degree, to provide a better lifestyle for me. When I was entering the sixth grade, my mother moved us from the city to the suburbs. Super excited about the first day of school, I entered the school yard looking very different from everyone else, with my slick finger waves stuck to my head, an extra bright neon outfit which consisted of a pair of Hammer pants (MC Hammer, that is..."Can't touch this"), and my dark brown skin. [Continue Reading]
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HOLD UP, WAIT A MINUTE
Who said I had time for your foolishness? "Not I!”, said the girl who's
moving and shaking and making things happen. Back up! Give me my space and let
me breathe. The last I checked, time is not stopping or slowing down for
anyone. One minute I was a feisty, the world can’t stop me now, twenty one year
old; next minute I’m a relaxed, the world’s moving too fast for me, thirty two
year old mother who looks forward to sale circulars and trips to the
supermarket (Disclaimer: Don’t get it twisted, I am still that same fun loving,
life of the party character, it’s just now, the party doesn’t last as long as
it use to). Foolishness and ridiculous behavior just don’t occupy this space
like earlier times. My nerves can’t tolerate foolish, silly behavior like it
once could...[Continue]
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Bye, Bye Boring Sex, Hello...
It is easy to blame things on our man, and it is quite easy to point the finger when we are not satisfied between the sheets. Men will often let you know it is pretty hard to screw up sex - no pun what so ever intended **smirk, smirk**, but it can become boring, stale, and routine for him. You must do your part, ladies, to maintain a pleasurable sex life for both you and your partner. Don't feel bad if your love life has fallen on the stale side, this is normal when you fall into contentment and have been married or in a relationship for a long time. But just because it is normal, doesn't mean it should be acceptable. Listen (well, read), learn, and do better, with these easy techniques. Ready?
Sex tonight, anyone? 5 Health Benefits of Sex
Sex is good for you and to you. Besides the indescribable pleasure, sex has excellent health benefits you should be reaping. In part one of this two part series, I’m going to give you 5 Health Benefits Sex Promotes. Preferably, this should be reaped with your spouse or a significant other because findings are based upon one on one intercourse, so if you don’t have one right now, take notes until sharing time comes. Although, working out on your partner is more tempting than working out on the shabby elliptical, sex should not be used in place of your normal daily exercise and current healthy living, it just needs to be incorporated a little more often. [Read More]
SPRING 2013 FASHION TRENDS
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WINTER COLD, BRINGS ON SPRING FEVER
One of the best things about a new season, is the new fashion trends that it presents. The Spring 2013 trends were first unveiled in the end of 2012, but is there anything in the new trend to be ecstatic about? View the Slideshow and decide for yourself. Images: IMAXtree |
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